Usually i don't believe in love and this stuff,I feel sorry when i see a teenager girl with this loser guy with no future at all and when i ask her why are you with him you can do so much better without him??Her answer is because i love him i think to myself love my ass, this is not love this is foolishness from you.
Or another example of what many people think of it as love while i see it a complete failure is :When a girl leaves her future behind her and get married with intention that she won't work and she will devote herself completely to her husband and her kids in the future, OK i do respect mothers who devoted their whole life to raise their kids but i believe also that they could do it both work and raise their kids which is now thanks god trending,and for those stupid girls who want to devote themselves completely to their husband i would like to tell them you are totally wasting your life you are not his slave you have your own rights also you must go and work and you are not his dog that stays in home the whole day waiting for him to come home , this is not right you must have your own individuality and your life just like him,and know that if he asked you to not work or to go out with his permission then he is an ass and he doesn't deserve you.
What made me write this that one of my relatives she got married and she was in engineering school and she was an excellent student and got accepted in a scholarship that allows her to continue her education abroad.
and guess what happened her husband refused to make her travel they were engaged and she accepted can you believe it and her parents didn't object on the fact that their daughter is wasting her future over a man but they actually encouraged her to accept his orders i was completely mad and tried to convince her but she told me what ?? I love him i was about to curse her and her family but i didn't . so this is not love,love can never bring you down,
Now i will tell u a story about what real love is,This story is about my grandpa (Gedo) and my grandma(anna),
Gedo married anna (she may R.I.P) 60 years ago, and it was very traditional marriage she was about 17 years old only(which i kept asking her how can you agree to marry him while you were so young and she always had this answer you won't understand what i share with your grandpa),anyway anna was from this rich,famous family and her mother was from turkey,And gedo was a normal Egyptian guy,
anyway they got married and they were very happy together and they had 7 kids ,Then we came the grand children and they loved us like crazy.
Gedo and anna were always together when they travel they go together , when one of them visit DR they go together it was very hard to see one of them without the other,And when gedo go anywhere without her when he come back they hug each other and she tells him may god bless you and keep by my side, i was always amazed by their relationship they've always shared love and happiness and when they argue for any reason it won't last more than one hour or so,Then anna got sick and she stayed in the hospital for about 2 months or more and gedo was always by her side holding her hand,and then she died last year needless to say we were all devastated she was just an angel but not like gedo he was with her for 60 years , And now it's a year since she passed away and she is buried in her city so gedo travel twice a week to visit her , he never missed a visit whatever the whether is or if he is sick or not he simply won't miss it for the world as he love his wife and like to visit her...
So this is true love ,they have been together for ages ,they were happy none of them gave up something that they love and if they did because the other party simply deserve it and have done his or her share of sacrificing.
And to be sure I'm not with the concept of girl get married when she is only 16 it's not right but i guess that anna was lucky :) You may R.I.P anna .....
From what I read both kind of stories are about relationship commitments, Your relative as many girls AND guys in Egypt put making family as the goal with the most priority
ReplyDeletei believe now not like 50 years ago ,ya3ny my relative for me she wasted her whole future fo for no good reason simply she can do both make a family along with her career and her future especially if it was her passion but throwing all of this away for me it's not acceptable,we can have different goals in life not just one.
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